Sunday, May 31, 2015

Is diamond really a woman’s best friend?

Is diamond really a woman’s best friend?
Can I confront in a diamond? Is diamond able to console me during my low moments?
Diamond no doubt is a precious stone and women want to posses one but in my opinion it is a stone that is hyped by profit making traders and businessmen.
As a young woman, I always dreamt of having one after watching a romantic advertisement - where a handsome man takes the beautiful lady out for dinner and surprises her with a diamond ring. I would replay that advertisement in my mind whilst day dreaming. It is said that life is a journey not a destination. For me my life was that diamond dream, that destination.
Now that I have a diamond ring, in my daily routine I have never remembered or day dreamed about the sparkling ring my husband gifted me on our wedding day. No doubt, it is precious to me and is kept nicely in the safe. It comes out only once or twice in a year.
In my life’s journey now I have realized is that life is not about possessing that stone. There is a life beyond that, which as a young lady I was not aware. Getting married and stepping into the relationship is about commitment and sailing the journey together with your partner till the end. But this journey is not smooth. We cannot sail without our friends (and few relatives) and their helpful advice. My friends stood by me and showered me with advices based on their past experiences, at the time I needed them. Without those friends I couldn’t have faced the gigantic waves, which would have easily swept me away. Instead of investing on diamonds, I would invest quality time (sometimes money) on my sensible friends. They add substance to my life and are forever with me.
In my view, young girls should not go crazy and be fooled by the advertisements around them. I don’t say that don’t invest on a diamond. If it is gifted to you then accept it gracefully. I also have one. I suggest looking beyond that sparkling stone and finding inner and more fulfilling life. Unfortunately, I can see weekend magazine full of celebrities in jewelry advertisements. In one of the advertisements, Amitabh Bachchan suggests to a young boy – to propose a girl for marraige with a diamond ring (zamana badal gaya hai, he says). A red rose can also do that work only if the man’s feeling is true. Why specifically diamond ring?
In my personal view, a women’s best friend is her education. Her education can help her during tough times. Knowledge of any form that forever stays with us is our best friend. Recently, an unfortunate tragedy had hit Nepal, where people lost their belongings and their precious possessions. What is still with them is their knowledge and skills they have learnt in the past. Now this will be their building block for future.
In my list of best friends diamond doesn’t even exist. My best friend is my mother, sister, few school and office friends, my husband and my education. Who are your best friends?